Rebecca loves Revenge and she's been going crazy with it off all these weeks. Tomorrow night it returns to ABC with new episodes, six new episodes in a row. So she'll be watching. Will you?
I still haven't watched Smash. I'll write about it tomorrow.
A very dear friend called and left me a message at work (I was in a session) just asking if I could pop over on the way home.
Which I did.
She was putting a brave face but ay-yi-yi.
20 years of marriage -- anniversary in June -- and her husband tells her today (a) he wants a divorce, (b) he's not sure he ever loved her, (c) he feels he has wasted too many years and (d) (the standard) it's not you, it's me.
You know the "it's not you, it's me" is overplayed. But if you're going to use it, I really think it only works for dating. Once you're living together or engaged or married, I think it's too late for that phrase.
So she just wanted to see a friendly face and gave me a hug and told me to call later in the week. I grabbed the phone and told Mike I'd be late getting home. I wasn't going to leave her on that note. So we talked and talked and I hope she's okay. She'll be okay. The anger will kick in and she'll be fine. But before that happens, I am worried. (Not that she'll self-harm. She won't. But I'm worried about how much this is hurting her.)
(If you're thinking, "Gosh, Elaine, you really aren't much of a friend going into all of this!" I would agree. I don't air my personal life and I wouldn't air a friend's; however, she asked me to. She said, "Somewhere there's a woman who will read it and think, 'Thank God it's not me!' only to learn a month or two later that it is her." She made me promise her three times before she believed me that I would include this.)
I think it is good that when couples no longer feel it is worth it that they can split. The alternative is scary and we don't want that. However, the reality is most break ups tend to be one person deciding and one person learning of the break up.
I don't know what I'm thinking. Probably about my own relationship. That's what we tend to do when a friend goes through a break up: Could it be me next?
If so, it'll be me learning that it's over, not the one announcing it is.
Anyway, you can probably tell I'm just not in a good place. I really didn't see this coming and honestly thought he was a better person than he ended up being (my friend's husband).
She really didn't deserve this.
returns with new episodes tomorrow night on ABC. I told her we'd note it here as well. Now to Iraq.
"Iraq snapshot" (The Common Ills):